What if things never change? What if you were to stay in your current situation for the rest of your life? Or even for the next five years?
If you’re reading this in 2020, I’m going to bet my house on the fact that the thought of things staying as they are makes you want to go and lie down in a dark room. Me too.
Current circumstances aside, even in the happiest times of our lives, it wouldn’t be in our interests for things to stay the same.
For many people, the birth of their baby is one of the happiest days of their life, but would you really want to do it every day?! Think of all the days since, watching your baby grow, learn new things, say Mama for the first time, their first day of school. If you stayed on day one, you would miss out on a whole lifetime of watching your baby turn into the person they’re meant to be.
At the time of writing this, my two children are 11 and 8 years old, and I’ve been guilty of wishing that time would stand still so I can keep them as they are right now. BUT I’ve come to realise that as time inevitably goes on, they both grow into the next stage of their life, and, as it turns out, it was even better than the last!
This discovery has been reflected in all other parts of my life too. When I’ve resisted change out of fear, I have just delayed the inevitable and stayed stuck in an unhappy place for longer than I needed to. I’m sure I’m not the only person who has eventually taken a leap of faith to think, “I wish I’d done that sooner!”.
If you look back at a time of your life that felt happy or special, you may have wanted time to stand still in that moment. At that point, you had no idea what was ahead of you. What’s happened in your life since then that you would have missed out on if your wish had been granted? Just as you didn’t know what was ahead of you back then, you don’t know what’s ahead of you right now.
Nothing lasts forever, whether good or bad.
When good times change, sometimes they bring about something even better, and sometimes they don’t. The bad times eventually pass too, thank goodness.
After every challenging period of my life, I have emerged wiser and stronger, having learned the lesson I needed to in order to change and evolve.
When you’re in an unhappy place, it can be so easy to get into the mindset that you’re stuck or trapped in your situation. But that’s never the case. In fact, it’s impossible to be stuck in one place when the universe and world around you are changing every moment of every day.
Instead of thinking ‘change is hard’, how does it feel to think ‘change is natural’?
It’s not a question of whether change will happen; it’s a question of how it will happen.
Change is coming anyway, so instead of waiting for it to happen to you, take control of the situation and decide how you can make change work for you.
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